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Counseling as Collegiate SupportPosted by Dr. Tara J. Palmatier |
Mar 12
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The college years are an exciting, but sometimes stressful time. Many students are faced with problems that are not readily resolvable or the usual ways of managing problems aren’t working as well as they used to do. You may find, for example, that talking to friends or family about your concerns is impossible or unhelpful.
What is counseling?
There are many definitions of counseling. Basically, it is a process by which psychological and/or emotional problems/concerns are treated through communication and relationship aspects between an individual and a therapist. Counseling provides you the chance to talk about what is on your mind with an objective person. This trained professional can help you learn new skills and ways of looking at situations, so that you will be more capable of solving new problems on your own in the future.
How is it different from talking to my friends about my problems?
Counseling is much more than talking about your problems. While family or friends can help you feel better or even offer good advice for change, this isn’t counseling. Counseling is a professional relationship between a therapist and a client that is based on therapeutic principles, structure, and technique. It differs from other relationships in several ways:
Relationship with a specific purpose.
The relationship between a therapist and a client is strictly professional. It exists only and solely for the purpose of helping the individual seeking counseling.
Confidentiality.
You can tell therapists things without having to worry about your information being repeated to others or in any way affecting your job, family, or friendships.
Honest expression of feelings.
You can be honest without having to worry about offending friends, family, or peers. When a therapist asks how you are doing, he or she really wants to know. This is different from social or casual conversation, in which the person who asks the questions expects you to say, “okay” so he can tell you how he is doing.
Professional training and experience.
Therapists are trained through education and practical experience to understand what you say- your words, how you say them and which ones you do not use. They pay attention to body language and tone of voice to fully understand your speech. Having learned about and working others possessing similar issues to your own, therapists understand your particular concerns and help you to work through and beyond them.
If I begin counseling, how can I try to get the most out of it?
Counseling works especially well when individuals and their therapists communicate openly. Research has shown that the outcome of counseling is improved when the therapist and the individual agree early about what the major concerns are and how counseling can help. You and your therapist both have responsibilities in establishing and maintaining a good working relationship. Be clear with your therapist about your expectations and share any concerns that may arise. Therapy works best when you attend all scheduled sessions and give some forethought to what issues you would like to address.
Written by: Dr. Tara J. Palmatier
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What is student retention? The number of students who remain enrolled and do not drop out or transfer out. Universities do not like to lose students. Most tout themselves as “student-centered.” They profess their commitment to educate young minds and to provide healthy environments that promote overall development. However, the bottom line is that lost students are lost tuition dollars. Don’t think for one minute they actually care about your kids. Students are revenue; walking, talking cold hard cash with belly rings and laptop computers.
There is another interesting trend occurring on campuses. Whilst they simultaneously aim for higher retention rates, many large universities are systematically dismantling their counseling centers. In their place, students in need of support are triaged through the health services center/insurance representative and given a referral to a practitioner located off campus.
The university I worked for (one of the largest in Boston) conducted an outcome study of retention rates of students who received counseling services vs. students who did not receive services. No big surprise, students who did not receive services had a higher drop out rate and/or leave of absence rate.
Vincent Tinto, Ph.D. (Syracuse University) is a renowned expert on the issue of student retention. Tinto (2003) writes, “Many universities in the United States speak of the importance of increasing student retention. Indeed, quite a few invest substantial resources in programs designed to achieve that end. Some universities even hire consultants who promise a proven formula for successful retention. But for all that effort, most universities do not take student retention seriously. They treat student retention, like so many other issues, as one more item to add to the list of issues to be addressed by the university. . .”